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? Teach them that mistakes are never final
? Issue a warning,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but mean it
? Be careful of abusive adjectives, they really hurt
? Eliminate “Who’s at Fault?”
? Consistent does not mean rigid
I have included a number of different approaches to discipline that won’t damage the spirit of your precious children, but none will work if you haven’t acknowledged that what you were doing in the past was harmful and that your family deserved a more nurturing environment. I am not a psychologist or a counselor, but I know there are good ones out there who can assist you in shifting your paradigm of discipline to a more loving and respectful relationship.
? Don’t punish them for telling the truth
? Spanking and screaming are not effective teachers
Judy H. Wright is a parent educator and life coach. Her passion and joy is in working with Head Start staff and Child Care providers to create a climate where every child succeeds and blossoms. The website [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] contains many free articles and reports as well as books, workshops and tele-classes for parents and educators.
? Recognize effort and improvement
? Be aware of your body and facial language
? Adults also need time out
? Catch them doing things right
? Be both firm and kind in discipline
? Distinguish between minor mishaps and major problems
? Be curious not furious-Ask questions
You can do it. I believe in you.
? Discipline but never punish
This handout has been prepared for you by Judy H. Wright, Parent Educator. It is part of a new book, Raise a Confident Child which will be coming out soon. For Free reports and to subscribe to the “Artichoke-finding the heart of the story in the journey of life” please join us at [link widoczny dla zalogowanych]
? We all need boundaries
? Teach without anger, shame or blame
? Deal with problems in private, praise in public
? Treat each child as an individual
You owe it to your children and yourself to break the bonds and cycle of abuse and get help. Change is possible; I see it every day in families I work with. You are a good,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], kind and loving person or you wouldn’t be reading this book and attending these classes, so I encourage you to take the steps that will change the lives of your children and their children.
If your parenting methods include abuse of any kind; physical, sexual, emotional or verbal,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], please get help to stop as soon as possible. Adults are supposed to safeguard and protect the young among us. You may be repeating patterns learned in your family of origin or not know any other methods of parenting.
? Is your love unconditional
A list of talking points to help you discipline without damage is listed below.
? Teach them to forgive and ask for forgiveness
? The meaning of the word discipline
? There is no such thing as a “good” or “bad” child
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